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How to Flirt With a Guy Over Text

Sujata Iyer
Flirting over text is the latest improvement in the flirting ritual that has been a part of the dating game since ages! The evolution from fleeting glances to roses to unsigned gifts has now reached the modern stage of text messages. Read how you too can enjoy this new-age flirting game!
OK! So you like a guy. You have his cell phone number. You don't know what he thinks about you but you are dying to find out. You don't want to call him because that might seem too desperate. I have the perfect solution! Text him! Here are some easy to learn (and follow) flirting tips that girls can use.
Initiate!
Waiting for a guy to make the first move can get pretty frustrating! Remember he could be as apprehensive as you about the whole flirting thing. So, do the unexpected by initiating the conversation. Send him a casual text message which does not necessarily require a response.
It could be a joke or a funny quote or something of the sort. This will help you to figure out if he's actually interested or not. If he's interested, he will definitely respond.
Be Nice!
Take your time to respond to his texts (but not so long that he begins to wonder what you actually want from him). After you get over the initial excitement, compliment him on something that you noticed earlier in the day. Yes, this simple way of boosting his ego can work wonders.
Keep it Short and Sweet!
Make sure your text messages are simple, neat and to the point (except when an elaborate answer is required). He'll probably not bother reading a four screen text if all he asked you was, "What are you doing?" He won't read the entire text and will most probably think twice before texting you again!
Focus!
How you actually compose a text message to flirt with a guy is very important. Type a text which is grammatically correct. Agreed you're over the moon that he's responding the way (or possibly better) than you expected. But that does NOT mean you forget your basic language.
Read the entire text after typing it and add emoticons meaning different things like [ :) ] [ :P ] [ :O ] to keep the mood going. Don't overuse the emoticons. You might just put him off!
Do your Homework!
One of the most basic rules when it comes to flirting with a guy, whether it is over text messages or even otherwise, is making sure you know things about him like what his likes and dislikes are. Talk about something you know that he likes.
For instance, if he likes trekking, tell him about a funny thing that happened when you went trekking. A guy who enjoys trekking will appreciate that a girl can enjoy something as much as he can. It will lay the groundwork for future conversations.
Again, try as much as you can not to be pretentious. He'll know if you're bluffing and that will turn out to be really awkward!
Play Him!
Once you have a frequent texting pattern (yes, if he likes you, you will have one), you can start giving him subtle hints by sending him flirty text messages.
There are numerous such messages floating all around, so take your pick! If you want to play safe, you can send him a cheesy pick up line, completely out of the blue, just to gauge his reaction. If he flirts back, yayee!!! If he doesn't then well, you can always laugh with him at how cheesy the message was.
Keep him Guessing!
Keep the conversations light in the beginning. Don't burden him with problems or heavy philosophy the day he responds to your text. You're sure to scare him away! Instead, be cool and share funny stories.
Show him that you have a sense of humor. If he asks you questions, be coy and send him a reply that will keep him wondering. That's the best part about flirting with a guy over SMS! For instance, if he asks you, "What would you do if I asked you out on a date?" You'll be jumping for joy, (obviously!) but he doesn't need to know that.

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Say something like, "I don't know, what would YOU do if I asked you out on a date?" He'll like the enigma and is sure to proceed to actually asking you out! Note that if you respond to every question of his with a question of your own, you'll both be thoroughly confused by the end of the day, so use this tip only when you need to.
These were some tips on text message flirting, for all you girls. Though the golden rule, "Be yourself" applies even in this context, you can always use these tips and tricks as pointers! A little help never harmed anyone, did it? So go and charm him crazy!