Mending a Broken Heart

Life seems to be a bed of roses and you feel as though you are in 'fourteenth' heaven. You feel life is perfect and nothing will go wrong and you make up your mind to spend the rest of your life with this special person.

Suddenly out of the blue pops an ugly thorn in the form of a misunderstanding or a quarrel (it may be from your side or his) which leads to an abrupt ending of this beautiful relationship. You decide to break up and part ways (sometimes mutually). Though the decision may be mutual, you end up having a broken heart and painful feelings.

Suddenly, you tend to suffer from depression and keep thinking of the person. You feel a void in your heart and hope for some reconciliation that the person will come back to you and everything will be the same as before. 

You keep wondering how to reconcile and think of ways to build the relationship again. This is one of the most painful phases in life that an individual suffers from. So, here are some 'remedies' for healing your broken heart.

How do you mend a broken heart? Well, it is a very tough question to be answered. There is no relationship that doesn't have its own ups and downs. If your relationship is going through troubling times, just sit and sort out the problems. If it doesn't help and both of you break up, you can end up suffering from the aftereffects of the breakup.

You suddenly find it difficult getting over a break up and tend go into a phase where you are into denial that such a thing has never happened. Your mind wants to block the intense pain it is going through, a feeling of abandonment and betrayal that you are unable to forget.

Remember this is only a passing phase and the gray clouds in your sky will be blown away. With time you will forget your pain and find the strength to forgive the person and mend your broken heart. Here are a few tips for mending a broken heart.

• Don't be ashamed to cry, if you feel like. Crying is a way to vent out our feelings and emotions that are hidden in our heart and it really heals and is one way for healing a broken heart.

• Quit thinking about the person whom you have broken up with (We know it's a tough call), since thinking about him won't help you in any way. Avoid visiting places that you both have gone to.

Memories do bring joy to the heart but at such times, it will only aggravate the pain. It's better to stay away from these places. Also get rid of all the mementos, gifts, letters and anything that reminds you of that person.

• Life is too short to be spent on cribbing about these things. Explore yourself deeply and enjoy whatever little things that you do. Make yourself busy by indulging in some recreational activities. Do what pleases you, who knows it may even help you in getting over a broken heart and you may revert to normalcy.

• And finally, get a positive outlook about your break up. You can be grateful for all those happy times you've shared together. Remember my friend, life is really very beautiful and full of sweet surprises that must be enjoyed to the fullest.

There is also a famous saying that a person who loves you will never let you cry. Maybe that person didn't deserve you, so it's better to let go and forgive and forget rather than nurse bitter feelings towards him.

Here is a collection of quotes that may help you to overcome your pain and help you gather strength and courage to face what you have lost. These quotes are specially compiled to show that all's not lost even after a break up.

Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go! ~ Author Unknown

Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go. ~ Hermann Hesse

A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it. ~ Anonymous

When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness, instead keep your head up high and gaze at the stars for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal. ~ Author Unknown

When we live with resentment toward another our hearts close down. Letting go of our resentment frees us from placing blame on them and allows us to look toward ourselves for peace. ~ Tigress Luv

We laughed until we had to cry, we loved right down to our last goodbye, but over the years we'll smile and recall for just one moment we had it all. ~ Anonymous

If you find yourself in love with a person who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. ~ Author Unknown

We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. ~ Joseph Campbell

The dark of night does not come after the golden glow of the day's sun but before it. ~ Tigress Luv

Do not pray for a path less difficult, but pray for a path more challenging. Only then will you not pray to find a partner to love you, but pray to find someone worthy of your love. ~ Author Unknown

Though it is a bit tough to mend a broken heart, it is not impossible. Time is a great healer, everything will be normal with the passage of time. Instead of sitting and brooding over what has happened, just break out of your despair and look at the beautiful world outside.

You may even find the courage to get over a break up and emerge as a stronger person. As someone has rightly quoted, 'If you love someone dearly, just set him free, if he comes back, he is yours. If he doesn't he never was...' So cheer up!