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The Role of a Woman in a Marriage

Claudia Miclaus
To be an appropriate helper defines a woman. This is in essence the way we were created. How do you want your husband to be? A beggar or a prince? The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18

Am I a suitable helper for my husband?

We look in the Bible to follow God's project for the family as the Great architect created all things. The scripture points the role of the woman in family building: "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."  Proverbs 14:1
God created Adam in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it (Genesis 2:15). So we can see Adam had a job as soon as he was created, to work the Garden and take care of it.
For sure God created the woman to help Adam to one of these two activities related to his work in Eden Garden: work it and take care. If God's intention had been to create a physical helper for Adam in the Garden, undoubtedly, He wouldn't have created the woman but somebody much stronger than she was.
It seems that she was created as a partner suitable for Adam, in taking care of the Garden. However the necessities of guarding were not about thieves or wild animals because all the animals there, were all herbivorous and in a perfect harmony. Eve was created for Adam to help him take care of something else there in the Garden.
Most probably Eve was created by God as a helper suitable for Adam within the purpose to help him in watch over the Command given to him: "You must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die" 
Genesis 2:17.
The wife was created for her husband to be the most suitable helper in the spiritual battle. She is the one who knows and feels best the struggles, worries and anxiety her husband goes through.
No one can share the happiness or sorrow of her husband deeper than the wife. Nobody can experience the spiritual high or the deep falls of the husband better than his spouse. So who else will God use in a man's life if not his very wife?
"Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers". 
1Peter3:7

But how can this "weaker partner" be an appropriate helper?

Take a look at the meaning of "helper". In Hebrew language "help" is "eezer". Abraham had a servant named Eliezer, for he said, "My father's God was my helper" Exodus 18:4. Also Samuel took a stone and named it Ebenezer, saying, "Thus far has the LORD helped us" (1 Samuel 7:12) , recognizing this way the Lord's help.
Such as the meaning of this "helper", refers to receiving help from Someone more powerful (God), shows that the wife is not inferior to her husband, but has enough power to be the suitable helper as God considers it is best.
We are not saying she is stronger than men although in certain areas she might be, what we refer to is the fact that if God Himself says about the woman that she is the appropriate help, it means she does have all means to accomplish this call.

Why would man need a suitable assistant, is there some kind of a danger?

God told Adam not to "eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die," so he was in the danger of death every moment. The helper God intended through Eve is justified in the context.
Today, it means that the wife covers the husband in the spiritual battle in the sense that she knows his best and also his weakest points and she knows how to act consequently.
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" 
Ephesians 6:12
So the danger is the spiritual battle we are involved in. In God's wisdom, He created the women so the man can be helped by God through her. We, man and woman, are equal in value but different in roles.
Let your husband feel your appreciation for what he does for you and family. He needs to know that for you (his wife), he is very important. He really is the most important person on the earth for you, but he needs to know!
Statistics show how within couples that pray together, the divorce rate is less than 1%! The power comes from prayer, from discussing the issues with God in every aspect of live, that's why keep him in your prayers always!